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Mar. 1st, 2001
relaationships gone bad. people gone bad.
Mar. 1st, 2001 10:15 pmMy friend’s divorce was final early last fall. His girlfriend and her daughter moved in to his house with him and his son, last weekend. When his ex-wife found out about this the week before, she hit the roof. She was - and still is - extremely angry. "How could you do this to me!" she yelled. The other day she dropped their son off, and she started in again. She was ranting and raving. She threatened to make him sell his house (she was part owner until the divorce was final and he was able to buy her out). She was yelling at him - in front of their nearly four year old son. How can someone do that? How can someone get that way? Life is too short to be that angry.
When the boy comes back from a few days at his mother’s house, he doesn’t like the girlfriend for a day or so until he remembers that they are friends. I can only imagine what his mom says about her. He has told his dad that his mother doesn’t want to hear about the girlfriend. That, of course, is very hard for a child. He wants to talk about the fun stuff he’s done, and I imagine his mother asks "what did you do yesterday?" I guess she won’t do that anymore. I can only imagine how that will be for him.
I tell my friend that he needs to take full custody, but he won’t. Not only does he feel that it isn’t fair to her to take her son away, but he won’t do anything to cause further conflict. I’m like, "dammit, it’s unhealthy for him to be in that environment! You know she doesn’t treat him like she should. You tell me that she doesn’t want to be bothered with him!" I know he would get custody. If he tried. If he kept track of all the crap she’s pulled. Like the time she hit him in front of the boy. Stuff like that.
When the boy comes back from a few days at his mother’s house, he doesn’t like the girlfriend for a day or so until he remembers that they are friends. I can only imagine what his mom says about her. He has told his dad that his mother doesn’t want to hear about the girlfriend. That, of course, is very hard for a child. He wants to talk about the fun stuff he’s done, and I imagine his mother asks "what did you do yesterday?" I guess she won’t do that anymore. I can only imagine how that will be for him.
I tell my friend that he needs to take full custody, but he won’t. Not only does he feel that it isn’t fair to her to take her son away, but he won’t do anything to cause further conflict. I’m like, "dammit, it’s unhealthy for him to be in that environment! You know she doesn’t treat him like she should. You tell me that she doesn’t want to be bothered with him!" I know he would get custody. If he tried. If he kept track of all the crap she’s pulled. Like the time she hit him in front of the boy. Stuff like that.
I got a lot done today.
Well, mostly at work. I didn't spend an excessive amount of time here at LJ, and I was working fast. I had much of the evening free. I didn't get much done, but a little is fine, and time to sit around is fine too.
I'm just really tired. The plan is to go to bed soon.
Well, mostly at work. I didn't spend an excessive amount of time here at LJ, and I was working fast. I had much of the evening free. I didn't get much done, but a little is fine, and time to sit around is fine too.
I'm just really tired. The plan is to go to bed soon.
